All right, so this week we are continuing our two part series on Crushes, Flirting and Dating…are they okay? Last week, we talked all about crushes…we talked about what crushes are, if it is a sin to have a crush, and what we should do when we do have a crush. If you missed last week’s episode, I highly encourage you to check it out.
So, I have to apologize to you. Since last week we talked all about crushes, this week we were supposed to talk about , about flirting and dating, however, when I went to write my podcast, I realized that if I spent a whole episode on crushes, there was no way that I was going to be able to split a single episode between flirting and dating. So this week, we are talking about flirting and then next week, we will get into dating.
Now, in this episode, I’m not going to tell you that you should or shouldn’t flirt, but I do want to share with you principles from the Word of God that you can apply to your life to help set you up for success for your future. Can I be honest with you? I truly believe that the way this culture (and a lot of times we as Christians) treats crushes, flirting and dating is setting you up for failure in your future.
Romans 12:2 says, “Do not be conformed (do not comply or act according to) the patterns of this world (or this culture) but be transformed by the renewing of your mind (to the Word of God), that you may prove what is the good and acceptable and perfect will of God.”
As we go through this series, that’s what I encourage you to do. Like I said, I’m going to share some principles with you that are based on the Word of God. I encourage you to talk to God about the principles that we talk about and ask Him what He wants them to look like in your life. Then look up the verses we talk about. Then, if you’re really brave…which I know you are, sit down and talk with your parents about it and see what their thoughts are. If you need someone else to talk to, you can always reach out to me. On the UncommonTEEN app, you can just click on the “Connect with Jamie” tab or email me at [email protected].
Okay, so what is flirting? I know that most of you can tell me what flirting is, but I wanted to share this dictionary definition with you, because it might just make you think: flirting is behaving as though you are attracted to or trying to attract someone, but for amusement rather than with serious intentions.
Think about that for a moment. Flirting is basically trying to attract someone…not necessarily for a God-honoring relationship.
Really, the problem with flirting is the motive that is behind it. Proverbs 16:2 says, “All the ways of a man or woman are pure in their own eyes, but the Lord weighs the (the thoughts and intents…or motives of the heart).
I think the real question isn’t, “Should we flirt? Or is flirting a sin?” but, “Why am I flirting?”
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