Have you ever felt rejected or unwanted? I think most of us can probably say that we have. I know I have.
I remember being in 6th grade and there was a girl, Rachel, who made it her life goal to make my life miserable. I remember one time one of the most popular boys in my grade came up to me and confronted me in front of the whole class, accusing me of spreading a rumor that I was his girlfriend. Come to find out later, Rachel had made up that rumor just to see what he would do to me. Talk about humiliating!
It made me feel invisible and worthless…and honestly, I began to believe that I was worthless and that nobody liked me. That was clearly a lie from the enemy, but I believed it.
Another time when I was in 10th grade, it was my 16th birthday and I was excited to get to school to see my friends. However, when I got to school, all of my friends acted like they were mad at me and wouldn’t even talk to me…like the whole day. They wouldn’t even tell me why they were so mad at me. It was honestly a very hard day for me. I felt so rejected and so unwanted. These were my closest friends.
We finally got to the end of our last class for the day and one of my friends said she was sorry for the way she was acting and asked if I wanted to come to her house. I agreed. When I showed up at her house, do you want to know what happened? All of my friends were there and were throwing a surprise party for me. The told me that they decided not to talk to me at all that day because they didn’t want to accidentally give it away. Even though they apologized, it hurt a lot.
Maybe you have felt rejected or unwanted by someone in your family. I’ve been there, too.
Maybe you aren’t amazing at sports or popular, so anytime you are split up in teams in gym class you are the last one chosen.
Maybe you’ve felt rejected because you don’t have the top name brand clothes that everyone else wears and people have made fun of you or pointed that out.
Rejection is painful no matter the cause. It can put us in a dark place that seems like there’s no way out, but there is hope. I don’t want you to feel worthless just because of what someone else thinks about you. Rejection by others does not define your true worth.
But what do we do when we are fighting those feelings of rejection or like we’re not wanted? Especially when sometimes we can’t change the situation and have to face that same rejection day after day?