UncommonTEEN: The Podcast for Christian Teen Girls

22. What Can We Do About Cliques, "Mean Girls," & Bullies?

June 06, 2021 Jamie Kirschner Season 1 Episode 22
UncommonTEEN: The Podcast for Christian Teen Girls
22. What Can We Do About Cliques, "Mean Girls," & Bullies?
Show Notes

Cliques…oh yes, that oh-so-lovely word that we all just have warm, fuzzy feelings about, right? Haha…you are probably thinking, “Yeah, right!” And I am totally with you!

I don’t think that the majority of you see cliques in a positive way. Honestly, I don’t really either. I mean, it’s great to have people who you really connect with and true friends that you hang out with a lot…absolutely! That’s an amazing thing and a definite gift from God. 

However, cliques are a little bit different. According to the Oxford dictionary definition of cliques, they are a small group of people, with shared interests or other features in common, who spend time together and do not readily allow others to join them. As we know, these are super common in middle school and high school.

Most of us can’t stand cliques, because we have been on the outside of those cliques and it didn’t feel great being the outsider. However, if we’re honest with ourselves, we have sometimes been a part of the very cliques that we can’t stand…me included. It’s not that we’re doing it on purpose, but sometimes we don’t even take the time to realize what we’re doing. 

I encourage you to always reach out to new people and taking your friends with you to do so. The problem with cliques is that the people in them tend to turn inward. They are all about themselves and what others can do to serve them. They become selfish and they are all about me, me, me. 

As Christians, it’s super important to keep reaching outward so that you can show the love of Jesus to those around you. 

The problem with turning inward and becoming selfish is that when we start to think only about ourselves, we no longer care about others around us. This is why it’s so common in middle school and high school for the “mean girls” to come out. 

If you are in public school or maybe in sports or whatever, you know exactly what I’m talking about. These girls are controlling and often the leader of their cliques. They think that they need to act this way because others around them are and they want to be accepted, or because it makes them more popular…or a lot of times it’s because someone has been mean to them and they are taking it out on people they feel that they can control. 

The reason why I’m talking about this today, is I want to encourage you in a couple areas….one to check yourself to make sure that you haven’t turned inward yourself. A lot of times, it’s not our intentions to be that way and we don’t even realize it until we step back and see what’s really going on. Another reason we’re talking about this today is because you may be a target of some mean girls and I want to help you know what to do in order to stop it from happening.

To learn more about what you can do, check out today's podcast episode.

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