Okay, so we talked all about the first season of dating , the season of growth, but what do when we get to the season where we feel like God is moving us into the direction of dating? This next season is going to be the season of discovery.
In the season of discovery, you have developed a strong personal relationship with Jesus. This is a season of continuing the growth of your friendships. The reason for this is that we can’t always trust our feelings. They will lead us into some pretty crazy…and not-so-good places…kind of like my story of all those guys that I dated. Yikes! I wished I would have waited and just held off, but I didn’t know all that I’m sharing with you today.
The reason why it’s so important to develop friendships during this season, is for several reasons. One of those being this, it’s very difficult to see things clearly. This is why, when you’re ready to date, I encourage you to spend your time together at first in groups of friends. This will help you see his intentions and it will helps you see his true character. If he’s wanting to date you just to use you, then you’ll find that out really quickly. If he’s someone who doesn’t really have a strong relationship with God, you’ll find that out pretty quickly, too, in your group of friends.
I know it sounds so completely backward from what everyone else is doing…but, if you look at this world and the number of divorces or the number of boyfriends girls go through…and just look at all the heartache and pain that’s left behind…it’s not working for them.