110. AMA: What Does a Pure Christian Relationship Look Like?

This week’s AMA question is a compilation of several questions I have received over the past couple months. I have had questions on, what do I do if I’m dating a guy and I know it’s not right to what does a pure Christian relationship look like to when do I even know it’s time to start dating? So, I’m going to answer these questions and more!

All right, so let’s start with the question, how do you know when it’s time to start dating. Well, I can give you my advice, but in the end it’s really a decision between you, your parents and God. However, I truly believe that there are times that are better than others and I truly believe that there are things we can do to keep ourselves out of trouble when the time is right. 

But before I even answer that question, I want to talk about dating today. The way that this world has set up dating is honestly preparing us for divorce. I mean think about it. You think a guy is cute. He thinks you’re cute. You start hanging out. You begin to date. Then, when he’s no fun anymore or he thinks you’re no fun anymore, it’s time to move to the next guy. It’s not about commitment. It’s not about what’s best for the other person. It’s not about if you’re going to marry them one day or not. 

Song of Solomon 8:4 tells us and this is from the Message Bible. It says, “Oh, let me warn you, sisters, don’t excite love, don’t stir it up, until the time is ripe—and you’re ready."

The reason is because every person that you date, you are giving a piece of your heart away to and when it’s time to give your heart to the man God has for you, there’s not a lot left to give. It’s been broken. It’s been bruised. 

So, how do you know when the time is right? 

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